As a parent, when bad things happen, you do certain things to make sure they don’t happen again.
If someone breaks into your house and takes away everything you own, you get more and bigger locks. But after this? What do you say so this doesn’t happen again, to Nate or Laura? When your kids get in the car, do you say, “Be careful” 110 times instead of just 100?
Your children leave the house like they always did, no better armed, our assurances no stronger this night than any night before Alex died.
In fact, fewer assurances. We now know we are among those people who terrible things can happen to.