Many parents say they can’t imagine what it feels like getting that news.
But I can tell you that the imagining of hearing it, and the reality of hearing
it, are similar in that the terrible shudder that you feel in your bones
is the same.
The difference is, when it’s real, you don’t immediately snap
yourself back to a reality where it isn’t true, which is what you do when
it hasn’t happened for real.
That horrible quake you feel is the same. But you shut it out when it’s
imagined. It stays when it’s real.